When you enter the realm of parenting things change. Regardless if it’s a little or a lot, for the better or worse. Things change.
We don’t get to keep the same life we had prior, but why would we want to?
Parenting is a blessing that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
We need to look at the world, see what we don’t like and what we do and know we have a chance to influence a life, mold it a little, help it adjust to the world around it.
You see everywhere “….. isn’t born it’s made” IT’S EVERYTHING NEGATIVE. Hate, racism, sexism, stereotypes, stigmas, fears, entitlement, materialism, anything we can think of that we don’t like about the human race, we as a race created.
To teach is to learn. To teach is to implement. If we’re teaching our offspring to be positive, see things positively, don’t hate, don’t judge, don’t fear, don’t see color, gender or orientation, THEY WON’T.
The problem does not lay with the children, it lies within us. If we can not get over our own fears and hate, we will only continue to breed it.
We see it everyday, this opinion vs. that opinion, they’re wrong, I’m right. “I can’t believe this opinion, it’s ridiculous they disagree with my opinion, I am all knowing and can’t be wrong or just not have an opinion, I mean I’m a parent.” As silly as THAT may sound, that’s what I read when I read the war on vaccines or the opinions on birthing or breast feeding or same sex parents or adoption.
We all know how hard it is to go through pregnancy, regardless if you’re the one carrying or the spouse or the family waiting. It’s a long 9 months of worries, planning and preparation. Fear of the worst, hope for the best.
We all know giving birth is A BIG DEAL. No matter how it’s done, it’s giving of life. IF you grew a baby in your belly and have to get it out, no matter how you do that, you’re a warrior.
Deciding on so many factors of a child’s life is hard. One thing I hope for our future and our children is they know love. Real love, blind, untainted love. I hope they truly care about one another and not the money in their bank account or the materialistic things they own.
I hope we show them the triumphs and successes we’ve had as a human race and show them we are human, we are flawed, but we are so powerful. However only as a unit can we make change.
Sure I have opinions, this is one now. However the ones I will choose to share with my children will be that of hope, love and strength. My own fears and other flaws I’ve gained through my 26 years of life, well I’m trying to fix them. By teaching to be better than that.
Children are innocent, carefree and beautiful. We all envy it, wish we could “be like that again”. It’s not gone, it never was.
Wrongs and mistakes do not make you flawed but learned. In school, you take tests, quizzes and do homework, we all say “I never used any of what I learned in school.”
That’s a shame. There’s so much more than we realize. These tests we loathed, show we’re going to get some answers wrong, make mistakes and maybe even flunk. Know that if we would’ve made better choices, like study or do the work, we would’ve gotten a better grade. HOWEVER we get another shot, we can try again and do better. It’s not set in stone. It’s not over.
Taking notes. Did you know that writing things down helps you remember them? And thankfully there’s this (Article). So yeah, not pointless.
And much more. We need to teach our children that school isn’t just “you just have to”. It’s to ready you for life, it’s not just to torture you. Respect it and understand that without it you could be completely unready for the real world.
A lot of simple things are taken for granted in this day and age, lets not pass this to the next few generations.
Lets create appreciation for nature, people and the complexity of life.
Maybe I’m asking for a lot but lets start with uniting and understanding.
Lets start teaching and doing what we want to see. Lets make a conscience effort to STOP our own judgements and fears to not project them upon our children.
Let us not let them hear the negative by making an effort to keep it from our own mouths.
Lets make a change and start with ourselves.
Maybe if we make these changes in ourselves, we might just finally succeed in stopping the hatred and distaste that makes us not enjoy each other or what’s around us.
Or maybe I’m just a little girl hoping the world becomes the place I’ve always thought it was before I was tainted by “adulting”.
Free spirit traveling full-time in an RV with my knight and shining armor, little prince and fur baby.
On a journey to be the best, healthiest version of me I can through physical and mental development.
This is my journey.